How to Release Fear

As I sit here writing away I am struck by the unknown.

Will we be ok?

I look at the date and I notice that it is Friday the 13th.

And the moon is still pretty darn full.

Damn, there are horror movies named after this day.

And yet if you look deep enough can see through the irony. 

Friday is the most feminine of the days, of course we have been taught to fear a day that represents the feminine.

Friday is named after the Norse Goddess Frigg associated with Venus.   

The feminine planet of love and passion.  

Frigg was a seer and mother.

She was powerful.

The number thirteen is associated with the moon because regardless of what some people say there are indeed thirteen full moons in a year.

La luna is undeniably feminine.

So Friday the 13th is when our intuition is heightened.   And our love and our senses.

Some out there are most frightened by this idea of trust, openness and empathy.

So doesn’t it make sense that on a day that there is added influence on our intuition and trust that many experience or expect the opposite. 

That is if we allow fear to rule the show.

Sure some fear is healthy, but many people give fear too many opportunities to overpower.

Fear can ruin great things if you allow it to. Fear can keep us all complacent.

Fear is your brain thinking of every possible outcome and presenting them to you with great emphasis on dread.

Many times this fear has a way of bringing up a memory of other times you’ve gotten hurt.

“No one will believe me, everyone will hate me if they know..”

Fear is a very loud lie, with lots of little lies that hope to overwhelm and confuse you from living from your truth.

Our intuition is much more quiet and unobtrusive.

It’s so easy to ignore our intuition.

But fear on the other hand will often times not let us off so easy.

It is a loud noise that we must learn to dismantle in order to tone it down, then we can finally turn up the volume on the intuitive parts of us.

Let’s look to moon’s shape to release the fear :

Look to the O’s to release Fear:

  • Origins-I can now look to see where this fear feeling originates from and because I can feel it, I can look at where this is emotion is stored in my body. I feel it so I can release it.


  • Observation- I can see this fear. I can fully face it without getting swept into it.  I look at it to be able to release it.


  • Oxygen and Oxytocin root of both words means -keen -pungent -sharp -strong   It’s not by chance that the longer we inhale the more oxytocin we release(the love and trust hormone).  Oxytocin also puts us back in the present.   So get to that deep breathing. And with the exhale send that fear out of that pain body and bless that area with love.


  • Orgasm Ok yes maybe I just added this word to get your attention.  It worked right.  But seriously you know they are great for releasing right?  They are magic.  So why not have more.  Obviously if you haven’t done 1-3 you may not be present enough to have that orgasm.  So go back and try 1-3 again.

It is most true that all of us could use help with this. 

  I offer classes and individual sessions to help your soul shine in all that you do. 

I am especially fond of working with families and those looking at new life pathways.

I’ll end today’s post with a gorgeous quote from a longtime love of mine:

Wendell Berry

The Peace of Wild Things

“When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.”

Wendell Berry